07.30.07
I Call Him “The Mosaic of My Past”
It happens. Sometimes we meet a person who we instantly identify as a suitable match for us. Not “love at first sight” if that’s what some are ideating, and the sensation is not analogous to how we feel for that other breathtaking person we pine so much to end up with.
I’m speaking of someone I chanced to be acquainted with, who ingenuously happens to be very much compatible with myself, my spiritual life, my passions, my lifestyle – and to top it off, my family. Antithetical to boyfriend/girlfriend relationships where man and woman intentionally discuss and have to agree on views pertaining married life and raising kids, I candidly discovered that both of us have the same visions even towards such matters. To my abundant surprise, his mother whom I also had the wonderful pleasure of meeting, supports the very same ideas and ideals. Even his mom is the epitome of my envisioned mother-in-law! After being with him I found myself unconsciously writing bold checks on all the items in my subliminal husband-criteria list.
(Yes, even spinsters have that. *bleh*)
He is a faithful man – to God most remarkably,
is way intellectually superior than I,
is not business-oriented,
is a musician in his own right,
has sound priorities
and values the right things,
he listens,
appreciates wholesome art and literature,
writes better than I,
respectful and humble despite his
praiseworthy accomplishments,
a real gentleman,
he has a certain profound smile…
and he’s handsome…
(those two are not on my list,
but they’re pluses),
a philosophy major
(although that has never been on my list
either, I have to accept my course that
philosophy majors will in perpetuum
affect me).
Yes, it happens, we do meet people like that… and it’s very nice to know. The strange thing is when the magnanimity of your compatibility frightens you so much that you dodge instinctively at every inclination of intimacy.
You do not say you are in love, but then you begin to wonder… will you be rueful if he ends up with someone else?
Yeye said,
July 30, 2007 at 5:04 am
I would be rueful! It would be sad to find a “soulmate” and not end up with him!
The fact that you have a “magnanimous compatibility” is not something you can brush off easily. You connected–and find that the bonds are strong. Why dodge? Why fear intimacy? Breathe in the beauty of knowing that someone like him exists. And that YOU have the opportunity of knowing him.
What to do exactly–? I would have no idea. But don’t you think you deserve someone who closely matches you? :-)
miRacLe said,
July 30, 2007 at 5:19 am
Gee… I never even considered him a “soulmate,” but you got me thinking…
Thanks, Irene.
I’ll consider that a “nudge…” =)
Yeye said,
July 31, 2007 at 8:18 am
…i’m sorry, but the way you described him sounded like he was a “soulmate”. (*winks*)
miRacLe said,
July 31, 2007 at 3:42 pm
Don’t be sorry… you made me realize something… =)
KNYT said,
August 2, 2007 at 6:01 pm
About freaking time. :) I’m out of better words to say… to quote my magnanimously loud friend “You go, girl!”.
miRacLe said,
August 2, 2007 at 6:21 pm
Haha… hey there, Paul. =)
Ok, I’ll “go”
hide under my bed. hehee =P
Here’s the thing… we’re so compatible, but I think we’re still inlove with different people. hehe =)
One thing I learned - from the feedback of this post, that I simply shouldn’t dodge friendship.
Thanx, Paul…
I’m still wearing this big grin while imagining you imitate your friend…
“you go girl!”
Soooo not you!haha =D